I Hear, but… I don’t Hear

At 5:30 this past Monday morning I awoke from a dream, not unusual.  But this dream had a vivid moment. Similar to when the Lord has spoken to me through a dream in the past. I can still remember the words spoken; “She only has about a day and a half to live”. Where the action was taking place was not clear and the people where shadowy.  I had a sense it was an older person from church. I remember saying a short nondescript prayer and wondered.  My mind went to the church for which I had previously worked.  It was a senior congregation where the average age is about 70. All that day I kept expecting to receive an email requesting prayer for someone who passed away.  But it didn’t come. Dream set aside, I got on with my week.

I hear, but I don’t listen! Why does Holy Spirit (the very  Spirit of God) even bother with me?  I’m so angry at myself and I’m deeply saddened. For several days last week a friend’s name would come to mind, kind of out of nowhere.  I made a mental note to give her a call. But I didn’t.  At the beginning of this week her name once again popped into my head.  I wrote her name on my list of calls to make.  Monday, I looked at the list, and said “I’ll call tomorrow”, but I didn’t. Tuesday, I looked at the list and said, “I’ll call tomorrow”, but I didn’t.

my_heart_hurts-396292I never connected the dots until today. A friend I’ve known for almost 18 years died unexpectedly.  She didn’t attend the senior congregation she attended my church.  I never even considered it might be someone from my church with whom I was close.  When I received the call, notifying me of my friend’s death, my heart was devastated. Tears of sadness flowed and even sadder, deeper, tears fell due to my lack of action. We had the kind of relationship where months could pass and yet when we chatted it was as if time had stood still. I will never again have the opportunity to hear her voice or have one of our chats.

Holy Spirit gave me several nudges to call this particular person; but I didn’t.  Perhaps if I would have prayed earnestly, asking for clarity, following the dream, the nudges would have become more demanding, but I didn’t.

How can I expect Holy Spirit to continue to work in my life, or to continue to speak to me when I don’t hear?  Oh, I hear the words and I sense the nudges, but I respond as if I’m deaf.  It wouldn’t be so terrible if this were the first time I’ve failed to respond. But, it’s not. You would think I would learn. But, evidently I don’t.  My heart is hurting for the loss of my friend.  My heart is breaking over my indifference to Holy Spirit’s leadings. My heart cries out, “How long Lord will you put up with me?” much as the Prophet did when he asked the Lord how long he would tolerate a perverse generation.

The Lord is ever gentle as he reminds me he will never forsake (give up on) me. He reminds me his forgiveness is never ending. Lessons learned don’t always come easy.  Many come through trials of tears and failures.

I share hoping you will learn from my grief.  If a name of a friend or family member pops into your head, especially on more than one occasion, please, pick up the phone and call. It may be your last chance to say, “I love you”.

Lesson learned, for the moment.

“If anyone has ears to hear let him hear”. Mark 4:23

Lord, forgive me,





Author: Sandra

I became a writer in my later years. I love blogging and sharing life with others. I speak to women's groups about the Christian life.

4 thoughts on “I Hear, but… I don’t Hear”

  1. I have been there and wonder why I don’t listen till to late. The only consolation is that I will see her again in heaven and I know she will forgive me, but I deeply regret that I didn’t listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit. You too will see your friend and I know she will forgive you. God has forgiven both of us and I pray that we will listen more closely to His still small Voice in the future.


    1. Yes, the Lord has forgiven us for sure. Thank you for your prayer, I do hope I will be more diligent in responding to Holy Spirit nudges. Thank you for taking time to share your story.


  2. Sandra,
    Thank you for you truth and honesty.
    I know how you feel for I too have ignored or put off until tomorrow the nudges from the Holy Spirit. There have been many times when I would feel those gentle nudges and sometimes bold nudges and then I would get distracted with my ‘to do list’ or myself or tomorrow. When I realized what I had done, I would feel the anger and disappointment with myself and wonder if my Father could ever forgive me again.
    But there He was lifting my head up, wiping my tears away and gently holding my face with His hands and forgiving me with all of His love and affection for me and then telling me to be kind to myself and to forgive myself as He had already forgiven me.
    You are right in saying ‘that lessons learned don’t always come easy; that many come through trials of tears and failures’. The important message here is that with the help of the Holy Spirit, we are learning.
    I ask our Father to make His presence known to you as you grieve our friend’s passing.
    Forgiven and Loved,


    1. Thank you Barb for your words of encouragement. Appreciate you taking time to share in your own vulnerability. Our friend friend taught me much over the years. I guess we could say even in her death she taught me yet another lesson. I know you will miss her too.


Comments appreciated and welcomed

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s