A new Thanksgiving movement is taking center stage…. Friendsgiving, “The celebration of Thanksgiving dinner with your friends. This usually occurs on the Wednesday before or the Friday after Thanksgiving Day, since Thanksgiving is usually reserved for family gatherings” (Urban Dictionary). A popular website defined Friendsgiving,”like Thanksgiving—only with the family you choose ….” 

img_1536-1The purpose:

  • Friendsgiving fills a void for people who’d rather not spend the holiday with family.
  • Friendsgiving is for eating whatever foods you want; usually done potluck-style.
  • Young people who can’t travel home for Turkey Day because of a lack of funds or their work schedules, can gather at a friend’s place or college dorm.
  • No baggage, no family tensions, no aging relatives… At Friendsgiving, no one sits in judgment over that awful spiced bourbon you love or the pajamas you wear to the table.

A Foodnetwork headline states  –  “Start a New Tradition….. How to host as Amazing Friendsgiving”

Buzzfeed offers 17 guidelines for hosting a Friendsgiving. I’ve listed the first 4:

  1. Host makes turkey
  2. Host makes gravy
  3. Host makes nothing else to avoid feeling overwhelmed
  4. Host coordinates a potluck of every other dish

No one clearly knows how Friendsgiving got started but most credit the Millennial generation. And some say it may have launched from the popular television sitcom, Friends. Friendsgiving looks a lot like Thanksgiving at my home.  My hubby and I invited friends and those who were “family-less” for the holiday to enjoy Thanksgiving dinner with us every year.  Most often, I made the main course; turkey, stuffing and gravy.  Everything else came to our table potluck style.  We have great conversation, are thankful for living in a free country, rejoicing over personal blessings received and laugh a lot at silly things. Yes, we cry too as we remember losses and sad times. It appears I’ve hosted a Friendsgiving, on Thanksgiving day, every year for over 30 years.

I admit I don’t understand.  Why all the fuss.  Why two different days.  Can’t one simply have family, if close by and friends over at the same time?  So what if Uncle Fred gets a little too, “happy” at Thanksgiving and falls asleep on the couch.  Trust me, when Uncle Fred has passed on that will be a memory your family will talk about fondly, for many years.

Remember these words, from the Declaration of Independence, signed into effect on July 4, 1776? “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights…”  And what about these words, “We the People of the United States, in Order to form a more perfect Union, establish Justice, insure domestic Tranquility, provide for the common defence, promote the general Welfare, and secure the Blessings of Liberty to ourselves and our Posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America.”  In 1791, 10 amendments, known as the Bill of Rights, were made to the Constitution guaranteeing American’s certain individual liberties. Freedom of speech, freedom of worship, freedom to assemble peacefully were first on the list. The fact we can stand in our streets and protest the results of an election, or choose to attend a church of our choosing, or not attend, and that our children have protections against all kinds of heinous acts are the result of the lives of men and women who’ve gone before us and overcame hardships of all kinds, many sacrificing their lives.

At the core of  America’s roots were a people who  believed in and recognized the goodness of God’s provision. Since our Country’s beginnings men and women have sacrificed and fought hard to keep img_1532our freedoms. We honor God and we honor those who’ve gone before when we remember and are thankful. In remembering we teach our children and grandchildren the freedoms they enjoy today come at great sacrifice and price. When we remember God’s goodness we as a people and a nation our blessed.

Whereas it is the duty of all Nations to acknowledge the providence of Almighty God, to obey his will, to be grateful for his benefits, and humbly to implore his protection and favor—and whereas both Houses of Congress have by their joint Committee requested me “to recommend to the People of the United States a day of public thanksgiving and prayer to be observed by acknowledging with grateful hearts the many signal favors of Almighty God …”  George Washington.

Getting together with family and friends is always a blessing.  Let’s not lose sight, however, of our rich heritage and the history and purpose of Thanksgiving.

Thankfully yours,

“Give thanks unto the Lord, call upon his name, make known his deeds among the people. “1 Chronicles 16:8

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Author: Sandra

I became a writer in my later years. I love blogging and sharing life with others. I speak to women's groups about the Christian life.

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